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Our voice is so very powerful. It is one of the most powerful things that we have within us. Our voice can manifest our dreams or give life to our wildest fears; it can calm our nervous system or destroy our peace of mind; it can bring our body into a state of health or … Continue reading One Voice

My husband and I used to get together with four other couples once per month to have dinner and spend time together. Upon departing, we would all hug each other and then bask in the connection glow for the rest of the evening. This brings to mind oxytocin, the vagus nerve, and memory as related … Continue reading I Want To Hold Your Hand

In my experience as a coach and a counselor, I have worked with many people in the healing journey. I have found that very often the thing that gets in the way of one's healing is the expectation around what the healing journey is "supposed" to look like. We can tend to have a vision … Continue reading You Can Go Your Own Way

Our perspective is how we view the world; how we see our own personal reality unfolding in front of us. Many things impact our perspective including where and when we grew up, the influences of our parents, teachers, friends, and neighbors, and our experiences throughout our lives. These factors feed into our beliefs about the … Continue reading You Just Got to Believe

If you know me, you have most likely heard me draw to attention the fact that we are all only here for a certain amount of time. And I don't really beat around the bush- I often talk about the fact that we are all going to die. My point is for us to stop … Continue reading It’s My Life

In trauma assessment, a key contributing factor for the development of PTSD is the feeling of powerlessness during the traumatic event. If the person of focus was able to take some action, even small action, in the moment, the nervous system is better able to cope with the traumatic event. The action allows the nervous … Continue reading The Safety Dance

Sometimes when things are really hard, I have the impulse to quit and run away. I remember in college telling my father that if I was ever missing, to check the streets off Broadway because I was just going to pack up my car, drive to NY, and try my hand at being an actor … Continue reading Keep Holding On

As this year comes to an end, we begin to look forward to the promise of new beginnings and possibilities in the year ahead. But, to be able to effectively make changes and create the shifts that we desire, we must first come back to our own peaceful center. In working with clients in yoga … Continue reading Peace is for Everyone

I don't know about you, but lately I have felt the weight of the collective grief that we are all experiencing. This year has been one like no other and we have all experienced loss of our "norm"; loss of common ways to cope and to connect. As humans, we are wired for connection and … Continue reading Do You Hear What I Hear

It's hard for me to relax. I'm competitive, focused, and task oriented. If I say I am going to take the day off to do "nothing", that means I will actually be at home doing things from my To Do list. I feel good when I mark things off of the list. And I seem … Continue reading Signs, Signs, everywhere there’s signs…

Cognitively we know that if we want a different outcome, we have to do something different. However, if we do not make any changes to the environment in which we are living and working, the changes that we are attempting are much less likely to happen. We must acknowledge first that motivation waxes and wanes. … Continue reading A Change Would Do You Good

In leadership, information and trainings have been developed to help guide the best responses to very difficult situations. A concept created in the late 1980's and used by the U.S. Army War College seems appropriate in describing our current state of affairs. The concept is labeled with an acronym- VUCA- and it stands for Volatility, … Continue reading Opposites Attract

In her book Grit, Angela Duckworth talks about the concept of deliberate practice and how people who are really great and successful at what they do spend a good deal of time in deliberate practice.  She also points out that this type of practice is not necessarily enjoyable, but rather, is focused and has the … Continue reading I get knocked down, but I get up again

As I am working with people in the realm of growthwork, both in the courses that I lead online and in mental health settings, there are five pillars of growth that underlie the work and the skillset that we are working to build. These pillars may be subtle and achieved as the byproduct of other … Continue reading Let It Grow

In order to live a fulfilling life, we must make time to do the things that light us up, that make us feel alive, and that help us to grow our own happiness. In my life, I call these things "Fireflies". These are the things- big or small- that grow the glow from within. These are the … Continue reading Shine A Light